Ach, Upon Thy Maidenhead!

virginity is overrated. it's an old-fashioned notion, most likely created by chauvinistic patriarchal sonuvabitches to feed their ego that all women should be chaste to them and them alone. even that thing about muslim martyrs, that when they die they get 40 virgins to serve them in their afterlife. whatabout female martyrs? do they get 40 virgin men to serve them in their afterlives?

someone told me that she considers her virginity her most precious part, that she won't surrender it until her wedding night. well to her credit i'm sure she'd hold still to that bargain, but your virginity ain't your most precious part. it's your heart and your mind, and most importantly your trust. sex is just sex. mere fucking. it feels good (well, sometimes), makes babies and kills time when time needs killing. granted, sex is better when love is involved, but sex as an act doesn't say much. i wouldn't consider the contact of two sexual organs as the giving up of your most precious part.

your body is material (same goes for your hymen) but your thoughts, your personality and all those abstract things that make you, you, they are immaterial. i'd rather give up my body than my heart. sex is merely a physical act, as i've said before. some people regard sex as the physical embodiment of giving in and receiving, of trusting and accepting trust. that's what they call meaningful sex. but there's also meaningless sex, where sex is simply a physical act, like exercising or masturbation, for the achievement of physical pleasure, nothing else. i have nothing against meaningful or meaningless sex. in fact, i'm rooting for team sex.

i'm not saying i'm a nymphoniac. i'm still a virgin after all. a physical virgin, and a mental/emotional one too. i've just not found the desire or the person with whom i want to have sex with. i'm sure i can easily find myself a sex partner, but i'm just not interested. besides i have ridiculously high standards, and the only person whom i can overlook these standards is myself. lesser males disgust me. especially lesser males who mistakenly believe they are alphas.

anyway back to the topic on virginity. in the olden days people associate virginity with purity and chastity and all those religious conservative nonsense. once you've had sex, you're unclean! you're a slut! you have to marry the rake who ravished you or face eternal condemnation from society! even if you're married, sex isn't meant for enjoyment! sex is for making babies! the only right way for having sex is the missionary position! if you're riding the man, you're the devil! it's these reasons that have shaped up the misguided notion about sex. if sex isn't meant for pleasure, then why the hell are we allowed to get orgasms? our nerve endings are there for a reason, innit? the kama sutra, written oh-so-long ago, has specified so many ways to screw, other than the missionary, so does that mean that all the women there are unholy bitches?

but i digress.

i suppose the main reason why sex is frowned upon as a taboo as due to the whole adam and eve fiasco. but if they didn't have sex, then there wouldn't be people in the world! we should thank them for discovering the use of their parts. then there's confucius in china who's one of the biggest asian chauvinistic bastards with his nonsense that women are beneath men. a bride's worth is in the state of her hymen?

of course, many people have abandoned the virginity issue, especially in liberal, developed countries. but here, where society is still strictly confucian chinese, islamic malay and um...hinduic indian (?) virginity is still looked upon as the symbol of one's chastity and purity. virginity is almost everything. hell you can't wear a tampon for fear of breaking the stupid hymen. you can't finger yourself. the first time you have sex on your wedding night it's supposed to be painful and you must bleed a lot. that way you reassure your husband that his tiny wiener is a huge monster dick.

some people think that losing one's virginity means the hymen is broken, not necessarily by sex but by other means such as horseriding or gymnastics. others classify it as strictly penile-vaginal penetration. i used to believe in the latter, but now i refuse to classify it as such. i have not figured out where to classify it, but now i refuse to call myself a virgin. i am simply a person who has not had sex. neither have i given my heart or mind or trust, but i think that such important aspects of one's being shouldn't be associated to that disgusting, purely physical term of "virgin".

charlene had so charmingly said, "i think virginity is overrated. these days, you can even fake it!"